Whom do you seek validation from?

Do you at times have good news, so good that you would wish to have those news shared with someone…

Do you at times want a second eye at something, wishing that someone else could give you an opinion about it, and help you make a better and informed decision…

Do you at times wish that someone would actually clap for you when you achieve a milestone, someone to keep you at bay, be your anchor when you are trying to get onto the pedestal..

Do you at times feel like there is just that one person who you would wish could recognize your effort, and cheer you on like every body else but they end up not doing it…

That is called Validation. It’s normal wanting to be cheered on by the people you think owe you validation. It’s normal wanting to receive recognition from the people you think owe you recognition. It’s even more normal feeling bad when you don’t get to receive these appreciations. However what is not normal, is beliving that you can not be any better without their validation. They just probably don’t seem to get the point the way you ought them to and this is now where self belief kicks in. You need to believe in your self, in your art, in your skill, in your talent, even if you don’t receive the praise you think you deserve, learn how to appreciate yourself, and in doing that you will realize that the validation you were seeking is not worth it after all.

How do you achieve this, you need to work on your self esteem. You need to learn how to be okay with patting yourself at the back, or If you must seek validation, how about you change your validation partner. At times your dreams, ambitions, desires could fail to kick off simply because you were sharing them with the wrong person. How do you find the right person, you need to simply evaluate the nature of the content you want to share, find a like minded person like your self, someone who you aspire to be like, someone who can halt their dreams and help you chase yours, someone who would like to see you win all the times…

These people are out there, they come in names like mentors, or you could choose to be an apprentice. You do not necessarily need to meet your mentor, as they could be people you admire from far, people you talk to every once in a while, people you can even write to. All you need is to identify that person who is as like minded as you and willing to walk you through your dreams journey and they will also share in your glory.. The first step is to identify who you are, what you seek to achieve and eventually everything and everyone will fall into place, and you will then find your true validation..