The stories we tell, the lies we believe, the truths we hide,
I borrowed this title from a series I watched a couple of years ago. Relevance is for those who watched it and those who haven’t, then it’s my hope that what I will write in here will explain the two worlds.
The haves and the have-nots.
The greatest thing about the life we live today is the diversity within us. That’s tied to either having something or the lack of it. Most of the time, our lives revolve around these worlds, even without our knowledge. We know and understand the costs of not having that which we ought to have, and at the same time, the joys of having that which we possess. The feeling of owning and the lack of owning eventually yield to the thirst of possession. And hence why we hold on to the things we hold on to dearly because we know what it means having them or know what it means not having them.
The haves and the have nots,
A title we would give to people most of the time, whether knowingly or unknowingly, simply by observing what they hold or what they don’t. For me, this is key. Sometimes, knowing where to draw the line between drive, contentment, and discernment. Sometimes people have the things they have because they grew up having them. And as a result, in adulthood, they cannot fashion life without them. Then, we have those who grew up not having some of those things, and it became normal not to have them. Or it is what drove them to now acquire them. Because they only know what life was without them. And now they, too, can be counted as those who have. Even when growing up, they were classified as those who didn’t have.
So let’s get abit practical. And stop being too ambiguous.
By virtue of the fact that we are living in this day and age, we have certainly interacted with people who have. Either have money, have the looks, have the ambitions, have their desires, have their courage. Anything that’s considered enviable. We know these people; we mingle with them occasionally. And we sometimes are left questioning, what is lifelike from their side? Their side of having. Assuming you see people affording luxuries, affording things that you can’t even pronounce, the amounts they spent acquiring them. What did you do? Do you consider them well off or just lucky? …..
Then we have people living in this other world. People who don’t have. People who beg for basics. People who walk by the sides of the road asking for bread or money to buy food. People who look even sicker and would even require medication more than the food. And sometimes vice versa. When they approach for help. Do we consider them as Sick, failures, or just unlucky?.
The haves and the have-nots.
I bet we have been in a position like this. Once in our lives. And the questioning of either of these sides must have left us wondering, why are we unlucky? Equally, if coming from a point of privilege, we may not certainly know what it’d be like to be on the other end of the spectrum of lacking.
As time has evolved, I have come to believe that these two worlds exist and somehow co-exist. By virtue of being in the same society. We eat with them; we worship with them. People who are classier than us. Sometimes content goes beyond envy. It becomes a point of acknowledgement and gratitude. Being grateful for what we possess, even if it doesn’t match up to what we think we have. Gratitude also to know that maybe it’s just luck, that’s making us better counted as those who have. And one slack at it, our towers might come tumbling down.
The haves and the have nots.
The society we live in today. Consists of the two worlds. Sometimes people might do all that it would take them, whether good or evil, to exit that world. Some might just work as hard and belong to the world of the have, and some, no matter how hard they work, will still stay in the have-not zone.
Candace Young was a lady who worked as an escort. She targeted mainly rich men, and from her escorting services, she would make her money. Her mum worked in one of the houses of the rich men that Candace went out with as a housekeeper. She did everything by the book to get money for her kids and pay for her college tuition. She grew up as a have-not. But did every deliberate effort to belong to the world of the haves. And as fate would have it, the entire situation became messy, she wrecked a home, her mum was let go of her job, and for Candace, her blackmail efforts didn’t take her anywhere, because again, the people they have are usually powerful, and it would take a bulldozer to crush them. Can’t quite remember how it ended, though. Kr if it ever ended.
Sometime in the week, we also saw that one gentleman named Jeff didn’t honestly know what Managu was. And the entire internet went on and uproar. Maybe wondering whether he’s just pretending or truly he didn’t know what Managu was. Another definition of the Haves. Could be true that he never in his life interacted with Managu. Anyway, and such is life. There are people we mingle with on a daily basis who come from extremes. Either having or not having. Importance is just to acknowledge that these worlds co-exist.
As I end, I think in a perfect word, there exists a curve. Where for normality to exist, there has to be people on both sides of the curve. The ones that have and the ones that have. Whichever side you are on, it’s important to appreciate life as it is on your own spectrum. Wish for better. Work hard. Or give back to those who don’t in the most dignified ways.
The haves and the have nots.
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