Time waits for no one, that is what we are told, and as true as that sounds, sometimes it catches up with us when we least expect. We may find ourselves playing catch up with things and issues we ought to have paid attention to, a long time ago. We again could be hurriedly looking to fill up and fill in gaps at a time when those gaps could already be filled up. A little bit too late.
Someone wise once said, hurry hurry brings forth no blessings. They were also right, just that they never said, what blessing would come upon us, if we took our time and arrived at our hour of “pleasure,” with no hurry. I am being reminded of a famous Swahili adage that says “Subira huvuta heri” translation to infer, patience pays. And that we should be patient for the right hour when things would rightly unfold hopefully it is not a little bit too late.
Equally, I am an avid believer of the saying, do it now, do it today or forever hold your peace, as the priest would recite during a marriage ban. Do it when the emotions are rightfully high, when the mind is rightfully set as opposed to waiting because none of us is sure about tomorrow. So then one would question, what would happen tomorrow? Or what would not? We would casually say, tomorrow would take care of itself. But the actual question is, does it really?
I thought of drafting this article for several reasons, but one of them was asking us, just how fast do we act? What do we tend to lose when we wait? Many a times we toy with the luxury of time by saying I will do it tomorrow, I will do it next week, I will do it next month or next year, etcetera, only for us to end up procrastinating that one major duty that would have changed our lives forever. Forgiveness is what is on my mind. How often, how fast do we ask for forgiveness, how often, and how fast do we forgive as well? Is it at the death bed? At the grave? Or when these persons are alive and kicking to receive the forgiveness or even ask of it from them?
Even this article that I could be happily writing and sharing with you today, is a product of months of procrastination almost an year. The information shared here in today, could have been useful to someone who might have been alive months ago. But I ended up denying them that information. Then these words of wisdom here in may be relevant, but just a little bit too late.
A partner may seek forgiveness a little bit too late when the wounded party has so long moved on. It would not be anyone’s fault but rather, the forgiveness would be granted a little bit late when it’s no longer needed.
In retrospect, I still agree that good things come to those who wait, or indeed what’s done hurriedly, may never bring the desired outcome. But what we are saying in here is, sometimes do not wait too long, especially when its within your power to decide or make a change. Sometimes time, may not be as patient as we may think, and people or things might as well move on because they stopped waiting. And this might happen just when you are about to make that change. Time may cease to be that loyal.
A story is told of a partner who abuses their other partner. They beat them up, torture them physically, emotionally even psychologically. They end up forgetting who they are. They start living in a cage. A cage of defence, a cage of worried thoughts, a cage of blackmail, where each day is used to fight a battle to protect themselves from this werewolf of a partner they have. Everything they end up doing daily is to learn how to survive from their merciless wrath. So this goes on and on until they could no longer, handle the blows, or scratch that, their bodies could no longer handle the blows, the kicks, the slashes, the abuse, the torments, the frustrations. This they do constantly, even daily at times, and within the blink of an eye, one wrong blow on their most sensitive part of their head takes the hardest kick, and in a less than minute they are gone. Forever this time.
At that point, your mind in its state of confusion, wishes could turn back the hands of time, wishes you could stop hurting them, wishes you could have let them go years ago when they asked you for a divorce. Your world suddenly shrinks, becomes smaller and darker, especially when you look at the frightened kids behind the curtains, holding on to each other because they saw you, they witnessed the whole thing, they saw how you pushed their beloved mother on the floor, how you took her life away. They are frightened not knowing what to say, and in your own confusion, your own panic mode, with the lighter in your hands, you torch the whole house and yourself ablaze. And all of you are gone, innocent people, you killed with your merciless hands. But as fate would often have it, you somehow survived, with degrees of burns, leaving you scalded, scarred for ever, with no family, with no hopes, just your gloomy self-unable to take care of his own self, and that marks your last straw, you pick the poison and finish yourself very lonely in that cell, with no family to give you that decent send off that you humanly deserve.
Deep!
Time, the essentials of doing it right, doing the right thing when we have the mind, the body and the soul for it. Don’t wait until it doesn’t matter anymore ..
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