I am so intrigued to be writing this piece on the last day of August. Not that there is anything particularly special about this day, but just because, we don’t want to be carrying August’s thoughts into September , do we? So we offload them right before the month ends for a fresh start.
Normalize, is a phrase or what we call the new slang, that is often used to tell people to consent. Sometimes, this consent is not happily welcomed because people do not like consenting, especially to things which they hold entitlement to.
To normalize, is to be at the norm. When we say something is at the norm, what we mean is that it is either normal, or usual. So, whenever we are called upon to normalize, we are just being told to consent to the norm, or to the usual. Equally, consenting teaches us that we need to agree that those things that we seemed entitled to, we can still be normal without them.
Everything around us holds so much stake and at the same time, a lot of dearism. And it’s this dear attitude that makes us not to let go. When we let go, we just simply normalize. Normalizing is simply acceptance, and moving forward. It also means, accepting outcomes that we may not have control over.
To normalize also means, being in a space that only you finds comfort without offending anyone or creating discomfort to those around you.
If you are someone who is always looking to pick fights with people, you should normalize embracing peace, because, when you create a peaceful environment for yourself and others, there will be no room for constant picking..
If you are into the habit of taking things from people without seeking their consent, you should normalize asking, after all it’s their item not yours, and if you go ahead to pick it, that will be equated to stealing.
If you are a parent that can only communicate by shouting to their kids, you should normalize dialogue. Kids actually listen better when you are calmer than when you are shouting. When you shout, all you are doing is instilling fear in them.
If you are constantly complaining of being broke, you should normalize saving, or normalize creating a budget and using it.
If you find yourself in the company of wrong people all the time, you should normalize staying away and choosing to spend your time wisely.
If people are constantly picking on you, that at times you always end up being bullied, you should normalize fighting back or putting your foot down. They will respect you. And you deserve to be happy.
If you are constantly struggling with something that you seem not to get it done, you should normalize asking for help, someone may have the skill or know how that you need, to get your thing done.
If you are that person who is normally offended by what people say, or constantly obsessed by the phrase, what will people say? or what will people think? you should normalize having a free will. Normalise having a free mind with an attitude full of confidence that, everything you are doing is okay by you and keeps you fulfilled.
If you are struggling to pay your current rent in your poshy apartment, normalize moving to a cheaper house where the rent is affordable, it will not kill you. It will keep you sane, maybe even help you think of ways of saving and making more that may possibly see you go back to your poshy life.
If you are entangled in a toxic relationship, normalize walking away, while still alive, because we don’t know about tomorrow, we don’t know what that partner may be accosted to do to you. So run while you can.
As I write this, I am realising that, it’s through this normalizing technique that we are able to find solutions to our problems. Normalizing, doesn’t just tell you to conform, it tells you to accept your situation, because it’s through acceptance that we are able to find solutions to our unending needs. Normalizing, also, doesn’t tell you to embrace fear, but actually tells you that you can fight for what you believe in, you can stand by your decisions and people will respect you enough.
To normalize, is not just accepting things as normal, but to accept their realities. At times, we could be living in a bubble, where everything around us has aspects of being extremely surreal. When you learn to normalize, you simply bring yourself to the reality of the matter, of how things are or how they ought to be. Normalizing is being comfortable to do the things that your heart pleases, what your finances can purchase or afford, or what your spirits get uplifted to. Because, through normalizing, we become honest with ourselves, and eventually making us live better and happier.
What are you choosing to normalize?
May your September be filled with the enthusiasm that allows you to normalize things that have been holding you hostage.
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