I hope you are well, wherever you are. Do we ever get to ask ourselves, why don’t we hear from the people we used to a long time ago? Maybe weeks, months, some even years? When did we become strangers to people who were once a part of our fs and fs? Why have we stopped keeping in touch? Some will say it’s part of life, others will say they outgrew the friendship, some will say maybe that was a season that had to come and go. And others wouldn’t have an idea of why they drifted. This is where a majority of us are. We stopped keeping in touch without communicating why, simply because life happened to all of us. We became different people, with maybe different responsibilities, we picked up a new set of fs and fs. To some we may never grow back the relationships we had with the people we kept in touch with before. This could be because, people moved on, and when people move on, its expected that we should move on too. We should however, not seek to replace them because people can never be replaced, but maybe we can pick up new things that we can do for example, new hobbies, new interests that will eventually help us meet other people or even create other relationships if not forget the former.
At times, also, people go silent, not by their wanting, but because life has thrown different things at them. It could be sickness, family squabbles, losses of income, losses of loved ones etcetera which could have hindered their communications with people who were frequent acquaintances. Many a times, we may not be the ones who will always go back and ask how they are doing, but if our minds and hearts serve us right, we can always go back and check on them. Some may have given up on life, and just living life as it comes, so your checking up on them maybe the sole ray of hope that they just need to lift their spirits. The hope that will still assure them that they still belong and that they are okay and loved. It wouldn’t hurt anywhere apart from your ego to be the bigger person to intiate the conversation, just try it.
In as much as it’s said that you may not have control over what others do to you, but what you do unto others, you need to appreciate the fact that you have the power to break the silence. Are there people who you have taken ages to be in touch with? Someone who you used to talk to everyday but somehow you are now just strangers? Was there any particular reason that might caused that drift? Can you pick up the phone today and try reaching out to them? Are you afraid they will shut you out if you reach out? If all your answers are yes, including the last one, still go ahead and do it, cleanse your heart and free it from any guilt, make your conscious the clearest by doing the right thing. In the end, if they don’t appreciate your gesture then its their loss…..
Pride comes before a fall, some will say, others will say, misery loves company. We could either be too proud to want to be seen as the people putting effort in keeping a relationship steady by initiating communication or we could equally say, let those who have chosen to go quiet on us, wallow in their own pain after all if they needed help they could have told us. Don’t be those people. If we can try putting in the effort to find out how people are doing, then we would be better off knowing than just assuming that they are okay. In my basket of contacts, I don’t just have a few but many of them, whom I may have taken ages to reach out to. Even as I write this down, I will purpose to challenge myself to try and reach out to them, and like I said, if they shut me out, it would only be their loss. Will you too?…
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