FINDING YOUR SELF

This statement somehow comes out very easily from any supposed motivation speaker. As cliché as it may sound, every time they offer any uncalled for or any unsolicited advise, they would always say, you need to find yourself. You need to know who you are if you want to achieve greatness. To some this statement may present all forms of lies, untruths, misbelief, but in my honest truth I think it’s very possible for one to turn things around for themselves for the better if they truly find themselves.

The question may come in the form of where do I find myself, how do I find myself, or why should I find myself am I not here? When did I ever leave?. …

People get lost, we all get lost, and this loss may not be an invisible disappearance but rather a lack of connection. Connection with reality, connection with others, being out of touch. One can easily get lost into so many things and they are not just vices, but even in the goods too. One could get lost in their job, their work, their career, their sports, their marriage, their children, their business etc..which may make them loose touch with those that need that connection from them.

When you are lost into something you lack connection with those that are around you. And those around you may vary from friends, family, children, colleagues, workers, etc. You could be absorbed into something that make you not be you, not be the person who you truly are and what happens when you are not yourself, you become edgy, disinterested, you become insecure, overwhelmed, irritable even and who wants to be around that.

People can loose them selves into addictions of all manner from drugs, alcohol,sexual activities, etc. And people loose them selves into these vices most of the time unknowingly. This may happen as a result of the pressures of life surrounding us, either sickness, loss of employment, failure from school etc. Any body can get lost from the most important of people to the least if I may call them.

How you find yourself only calls for a few things. Things that you can only engage in about you, that will help you find your way back to you.

Start loving your self more. This can only happen if you are kind to yourself always. Dont go shooting yourself because you didn’t pass, you did not meet the mark. Give yourself time to analyse what could have gone wrong, retrace your steps backwards, how did you get yourself into the situation you are in. Tracing your steps backwards doesn’t make you relive your grief or moments of sorrow but rather allows you to see where it is that you probably took the wrong route, where exactly did you get lost and maybe allow you to establish what could you have done to avoid that. Perhaps take a lesson for future.

Being kind to yourself allows you to acknowledge the fact that you are human and are bound to make mistakes, and that you can learn from them. Finding yourself calls for an analysis of your own life. Understanding who you are, what is your mission in this life, your purpose, what do you live for, what do you wish to see yourself do in the coming years. Finding yourself calls for choosing to deliberately do the things that you enjoy. If it’s singing, worshiping, writing, sports, do them as if your life depends on it. Because that is the way you connect with yourself and you can connect with others even better if you connect with yourself purposefully.

No, we don’t always loose ourselves, what happens to us is we loose connection with ourselves and those around us, we get burried into trenches of things that make us loose touch with reality, loose the connection and eventually making us feeling lost. Find ways of inspiring yourself, because that’s the only way to connect with your feelings, emotions, and eventually lead you into finding yourself. Talk it out if it’s possible, find a way of releasing it off your chest because once it’s out, it frees you ,it frees your heart, frees your mind, your body and your soul and you can accommodate better things in the space where that hurt occupied.

Remember to be kind to yourself even when you feel like you did the most insane of things. Forgive yourself and allow yourself to move on. That’s the only way you can easily find yourself back to you.. Engage in the things you truly love like your life depends on them. Be purposeful to pick yourself up no matter how many times you fall. Choose to be happy, choose to be thankful for who you are.. and lastly choose to enjoy the little beautiful things that life has to offer.

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