When you are young, most of the decisions you make are coupled with alot of naivety. Not because you are too timid for life, but because life had not revealed itself to you so early. Life had not had you committed to things that you shouldn’t have.. If I was to make the decision I made five years ago today, I would have chosen differently. But I wouldnt have known because life had not thrown at me what is has today..
Part of growing up entails, learning and unlearning. You learn new things that make you a better person, you unlearn the old that move you out of backwardness. I have learnt to treat each encounter as a learning day, each experience as a learning day to know and to understand why things happen the way they do. And if lucky have the ability to change them for the better if not accept.
Being an adult does not justify growing up. It does not equally symbolise growth in anyway. Growing up means, learning how to be different, how to do things differently with the obvious being the best version of yourself. Growing up means learning to be considerate of other people’s feelings. Growing up means learning to co exist with people of different minds. Growing up means giving up a few odds in order to gain new evens. Growing up means having the ability to make decisions independently even when a million people are choosing the other option. Growing up is believing that you are wrong and you can be corrected. Growing up is giving up on things and tasks that don’t make sense and taking up that small task that does even if it means just doing it for a minute. Growing up is understanding that people are different and we need to accept them for who they are even when we shouldn’t. Growing up is understanding that only you is in charge of you….
I have done thirty years. In a months time I begin my thirty one. And that is where I begin my life from. Having taken all the lessons that life has thrown at me for the last thirty years to be able to build a future that is enviable not by anyone but myself for being proud of the person I have become. Growth is sweet. Growth is equally painful. Growth is in taking the lessons and moving forward like you were never beaten. Growth is learning to walk with your head high even when it should be buried in sand. Growth is in accepting that no matter what, you have your own back, to lean back to, to offer a shoulder to, to be proud of.. Whatever your ideology of growth is, accept it, embrace it because that is where the true change lies..
I feel grown already…. My wish is to always be happy with changes, changes that are brought about by growing up. Adapting positively and not just conforming. Growing up is what I look forward to all day everyday. May I keep growing even as I get older, and accepting the changes that accompany this growth.
My journey to 31 begins…..
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